A woman is being urged to carefully consider her marriage after she confronted her husband for stealing her savings and giving them to his own brother – he claims he did nothing wrong
Money can be a tricky subject, even between couples who are married, own houses together and even have shared bank accounts – especially if one half of the relationship earns more than the other.
But, the most part, the majority of people would trust their significant others with their finances and that’s how it should be.
However, one woman has found herself in an incredibly uncomfortable situation, after she was forced to revoke her own husband’s access to her bank account, after he started dipping into her savings.
“My husband and I have been married for three years. We have two separate bank accounts but both of us know the info of each others bank account,” the woman explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“My husband is working a good job, gets a lot of money. I’m currently on pregnancy leave but I also have a good job as an optometrist. I also have lots of savings on my bank account.”
All of these details were fine, until the woman recently discovered her husband had deposited around £3,000 out of her savings account, not for himself, but to give to his brother.
“His brother has a job but refuses to spend his own money and expects his mum and dad to provide for him while he spends money on games and stuff like that,” the woman continued.
“Apparently my brother-in-law owed some people £3,000 and despite the fact he had that amount in his own bank account he asked my husband for money. My husband not only gave him money, but got my own savings from my own bank account without asking me first.”
But, as if that wasn’t bad enough, when she confronted her husband about what he’d done, he ran back to his parents, who then called the woman to tell her she’s “an entitled a**hole to make such a big deal out of £3,000 when my parents are rich and that amount is insignificant to me.”
The woman’s husband has since hit out at her for revoking his access to her savings, prompting the woman to turn to Reddit to question whether she handled the situation in the right way.
“Your husband has shown two major, marriage risking behaviours. One he broke your trust by stealing from your personal account. He didn’t ask you if you’d want to help the brother, he didn’t use his own money, and he didn’t even tell you what he did on his own. He knew it was wrong and did it anyways,” one Reddit user commented.
“Two, he sided with his family against you rather than deal with the problem with you directly. I think your marriage has hit a major crisis and this should not be swept under the rug.”
Another agreed: “He STOLE from you. If he can’t see what he did wrong this is a major warning of things to come. He needs to pay it pack and go to therapy, or you need to leave. Do not sweep this under the rug.”